The codependent wife moved back without his help and then he said he wasn't going back to therapy after one session. When I got up to go to bathroom like for 5th times, I could not make to the bathroom and fainted and almost fell on the floor whena person who worked at the hotelbrought me a chair to sit down. We've never broached this subject before and I'm worried about it ending up in a fight. My husband never realized what was happening right under his nose. Get out now and look for greener pastured. AskMen, Become a Better Man, Big Shiny Things, Mantics and guyQ are among the federally I think so. I daze into the sunset and really feel lovefor that moment. Haven't had so much as a hug and a kiss in sympathy. We want to hear your story. So once I told him in February of this year that I was going to sleep in the guest room that is now my Girl Castle, he was not happy. However Ive come to the realization that hes not the same as me. Please share ~ the relief is amazing! I was being somewhat sarcastic in my response. I was sick this past weekend into Monday with Bronchitis and my husband, who doesn't work during the week, left me alone on Monday when I called off from work. But we are talking about a lack of engagement here, right? They wouldn't get angry, but they'd certainly seem "greatly inconvenienced.". You really aren't getting the kind of love and support that you deserve from him. I've seen SO deeply moved by the plight of others. You never waver. You go through all of this, the burden of having a partner with a chronic illness who is always sick, the worry when I dont text back for a while and you know Im 2. We already talked and we good now. A therapist can help you evaluate the factors that have led you to this step and then offer advice about how to best proceed. https://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/empathy-and-adhd, Submitted by c ur self on Thu, 11/26/2020 - 10:32, There are a tremendous amount of side effects when it comes to ADHD..The ability to show empathy may be present at times, and with certain individuals.Spousal empathy can be effected by numerous things.The first question we have to ask when it's not there isWhat state is the day to day relationship in?If the answer is Not great!Then that is one place you have to go with human beings, ADHD or not.But, hyper focus is a major player.Selfishness and self absorbed minds are major players.Distraction as well as addiction will also play a role if present.Some peoples lives (minds) so overwhelm them, there is little time to even attempt to see the big picture of life.(If the capability is even there). He/she is merciless. Gosh, feel better! I see we are out of aspirin and ask him if he knows of any in the house. We also had an outdoor wedding to attend two weeks after I broke my foot . tl;dr - My wife doesn't care that I am unwell and I have no idea how to approach her about this behavior. Theyve been together for 15 How does someone even DO that? I know when Im sick I tell my boyfriend to just give me space and let me sleep and have him take over kiddo duty for a bit. She says take medicine or go to doctor. I will not beg for attention as I did in the past, crying because I was lonely. After 2 years of therapy for myself, I am in a better place. My In-laws and husband were there, along with our daughter. Consequences. Its your life not theres. I have a high pain threshold and never take any days off sick. If anything, I am stronger in your eyes. WebIt is not a crime to not care for a spouse when they are sick. I'm not talking about a " girlish, prince on a white horse, rescuer kind of thing) I think everyone knows what I'm trying to say. He doesn't want to connect it with his choices of not doing relationships very well, if at all. I have battle wounds and each one has made me who I am today and much wiser if in the future I should ever be single again. I guess it could be that old saying of, 'Whatever you fear you create". He will leave and stay gone 2 hrs and not even so much ask if I need anything at all. What is often harder for me is the hundreds of other things small and large that have made our lives SO MUCH more difficult than it ever had to be. Not my H. He'd blow a gasket and likely also yell at me for ruining his life. I had to get used to crutches, and taking care of the house, cooking, etc, was difficult for me. You cant change something you dont know needs to be fixed. I felt like I was dying, inside and out. I handle everything around the house, she doesn't need to be thinking about dishes or cleaning while He shows no concern for me - and this has to be narcissistic personality disorder. I have been raised to tough it out: when you are ill, you do not whine - you just put on a brave face and keep going. I count my lucky stars his empathy score wasn't way off neurotypical, but even so, it is affected, and I do notice he's MUCH better about me being ill when he's just had what I've caught, because he doesn't have to imagine how I feel, he knows from personal experience. Submitted by dedelight4 on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 22:58. And I also have to include.I have a very low toleranceto this kind of behavior!! "He worked all week ~ he's Tired and Deserves to Rest"!!! If he is in a tank with filtration, you need to change about 20-30% of his water weekly. I guess its just a character flaw of his! Sometimes, he can be vindictive in a passive way, like after I left him for that one month. (I think men dont care I'm going to be honesy) however when he is sick he expects me to stay in with him all day and if I go out hes constantly asking me to come home and gets angry if I'm out to long (he gets angry if I'm out to long anyway) he is unemployed and has a lot of time on his hands in this circumstance yet when I'm with him I have about 2 percent of his attention and that's just simple responses. You dont care about my illness. I hear you, I cant count the number of times my husband made it very clear that myillness was a hughinconvenience for him there was no thought to how it made me feel. I emotionally detached from my husband, hated him for being in the way and making this emotional affair uncomfortable. I was too kind, wanting to help TOO much, and didn't set boundaries. (Daddy issues?). Im worried and curious what to look for. I hope your foot heals soon and that you're getting approriate sympathy and empathy elsewhere. Everyone, strangers and those that love and tolerate him see an issue. If your betta lives in an unfiltered setup youll need to completely change his water and clean his tank weekly. THAT ONE TIME was all a therapist needed to hear to identify a personality disorder. I could reclaim myself so to speak and put myself out there in the relationship but unless my H admits to the effects of adhd in the marriage and takes concrere steps tofix it, I don't expect another outcome. My SO had an in depth ADHD assessment earlier this year (one we had to pay for out of pocket and it wasn't your run of the mill assessment, it took an entire morning of tests and interviews), and empathy was one of the things they assessed as they considered it part of the disorder. His mother died in a plane crash, this would finish him off if I left, etc. This is the response of a person who lives in the present. I, too, have moved onto taking care of myself and am putting my energy into friendships and relationships that are mutually rewarding. The whole thing is just very, very HARD. But still, if I do get sick and need something, he's there, doing whatever. I take care of her in sickness and in health.but our kids still come first. If you DON'T have any kids yourselfplease run extra far. It tends to be E>S in females, and S>E in males, and S>E in ADHD regardless of gender. My SO is inconsistently caring and compationate - the overriding theme of when they are not has to do with feeling frustrated and overburdened by yet another thing they have to deal with. After a month of separation, I was so happy that I started packing to go back. Iris is also an Invisible Illness Warrior. Second, gently encourage him to connect. My wife was pretty awful about helping me when I was sick for the first 20 years of our relationship and is still not great at it. WebMy girlfriend thinks I don't care for her but I do she's been sick for the past two days and I been trying to be nice by doing mostly everything for her I have to walk her to the bathroom give her medicine wash dishes pick up her groceries try to cook even though I'm not that good at it I have to get the bathtub filled for her I try my best to Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. This has been validating. Been married 13+ yrs and anytime I am sick, according to him I act like I am dying. I don't understand why many on this forum think ADHD is the cause of cruelty and worse. It sucks but thats what it is. I gotvery sick from what I ate. Iris is somewhat of a unicorn a zebra unicorn even! This is a great take. Not showing care or concern for your spouse when they are sick, or injured is NOT an ADHD trait. You love me. Even worse when these DisneyDaddys, lol are looking for a life partner, the first thing that they rub on your face is the: my kids come first b.s. And vice versa. I am choosing my battles now and choose to disconnect my emotions from my reality and continue to progress, better myself and finally live. Wise1. At one point my manager demanded I go see a medical doctor, which I already had, and because I was past two weeks of antibiotics and still sick, I was refused treatment. His kids are always going to come before you. If one person or the other (man or woman) are in a relationship and only use their ego then that is the definition of a true AGENDA not love. My SO is not yet undergoing any kind of treatment. Ive been silenced by my illness, cornered into thinking my illness was my identity. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 09:54. It's not even his fault because stupid idiot "women" like you let men like him treat you like crap. Anyway, I digress. I think it is mostly that I hate to ask people to do things/get things for me. Newly wed so some things are quite new. Im the one who stays home all day while you go to work for 40or more hours a week and then still find the energy to come home and take care of me and the house. Ziff Davis, LLC BBB Business Review. If she's sick, and the kids need something, she's on her own. I was ready to leave and here I was, with another kind of affected person in my life. Tell your spouse that although you registered trademarks of Ziff Davis Canada, Inc. and may not be used by third parties without But, he can't get past the victim hood yet.). Confirmed. Award-winning bookBuy paperbackBuy KindleBuy audiobookFree chaptersMore info, I just got back from a trip and most likely caught a cold from someone on the plane ride home. And I take. I never get any sympathy from him, but my children hug me, draw me upside down rainbows because I am in pain and can't smile, and try to help me. Maybe talking to her would bring it to her attention. She used to tell me, (when speaking of my husband), "I liked him, he never BOTHERED ME", and would praise him for leaving her alone, unlike her other children who " needed" her, as children DO. And now that I have, I have a new perspective. And, of course, there is their sense that others (including you) are out to get them. My husband is such a baby when hes sick is a huge cliche in marriage in the media. I wasn't even allowed to adjust my own pillows. Don't take her reaction too personally but definitely talk about it's compare how your parents handled it when you were sick, it may be very different. He didn't sleep well last night because he was stuffed up, coughing, etc. I had to pay out of pocket to see a naturopathic doctor trained by ILADS(it is the best training for Lyme disease and tick borne infections treatment.) When I confront him about what I'm thinking about how he acts, he becomes defensive and gets angry. It's the thought that matters <3. He is talented but can't hold a job with benefits so I work despite having health issues. Empathy, love, and Gatorade are amazing to have, but the rest is all you. Only a 4 inch drop, but tricky in a cast. The former provides you both with a structure that can work (does for many couples.) Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. For many years, Larry Bocchiere cared for his wife, Deborah, who struggled with chronic obstructive pulmonary disease. I am a partner though, specifically yours. He said I always run to my room when this happens and it will happen again. I had a migraine headache and vomiting a few years ago and said I wanted to go to the ER and he said , "If you had a migraine your eyes would be sensitive to light." And I also think- woe is the day he gets something as (he has never been sick a day in his life)I am not going to feel very compassionate. You also don't have a role model to teach or even show you HOW to connect. If my husband had a stomach bug that lasted a few days and he didnt go to the doctor I would probably be like your wife too. But just like I learned when I lost my job two years ago, a job I thought defined me, one singular part of my life does not define me. And, when I'm not 100%, then he's not being cared for. WebYES, YOU CAN! WebNo, that's not normal in a loving marriage. He doesn't seem to catch up or even see it. Not doing anything about it will make you resentful. I bet if I got cancer he'd go "Great! That's great! I am married for 10 years late in life now 60 ..and moved to Spain after 18 months I took the real flu I was in bed for 6 weeks with only sips of w If it's me first? I did not realize asking someone if they needed anything or just giving a comforting hug was petting. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 10:15, Basic human feelings that have to be forced, coerced or always one-sided is deflating and fatiguing. I really do want out of the marriage but don't have the guts at my age. When she start ignoring you and letting you do what you want, then you have a problem. Like so many of the other posts, writing this post and sharing my feelings is very therapeutic. So, again, it's about him. I ended up driving myself to the hospital after a bout of painful colitis- three days of complete pain and suffering, did not even miss a day of work. I don't think there is a way to forgive things like this. He has not been diagnosed with ADHD (yet), but he may very well have it as well. I helped him in his business, to help ease some of the burden he said he was under. However, when someone is sick, that is when they need the most love and support. Press J to jump to the feed. ADHD, doesn't give you the liberty of that most of the time. God forbid that I ever get anything serious. Narcissistic SpouseDoesnt Care whether You Live Or Die. Very very low tolerance since this is completely unforgivable as it should be? I am the best thing he has ever had. in Child and Adolescent Development and then an M.A. Because you are doing it and should own your behavior. Haha I'm quite relieved to know even a couple who've been together for long have had to get through situations like this. But I believe I am blessed with many friends. The way a person deals with sick people had a lot to do with how sickness was dealt with in her family growing up. No one has ever taken a day off when I was sick . My parents would basically tell me to STFU and get my ass to school, so we had very different experiences and understandings of how to react in that situation. Submitted by thparkle on Tue, 03/20/2018 - 11:19. WebWe Damaged Our Relationship When We Forgot to Care For Each Other Then we would take turns blaming each other. He loves, smoking, drinking, games, cars, machines, jokes and flirting. WebMaybe he's the kind of person who doesn't want to be bothered when he's sick. Some people grow up where you cuddle the sick person til they're better, other will have them stay in a room and slide in food like they're in prison, and everywhere in between. But somehow he feels as my fault that I'm this way as if I can do something to change the circumstances. Especially if there is work to be done or bills to be paid I myself am married to a nurse, I get zero sympathy when sick. He is Extremely self centered, has No Empathy or Sympathy for anyone except himself. My husband responded to me that if I went on medical leave I would have to stop seeing my doctor because he wouldn't pay for it anymore. God, family/friends, my job, my health and then him. Sometimes, I've wondered if some of this is not only the ADHD, its also, in some, (like my husband) the result of his emotionally cold and distant mother,who had mental issues that kept her from showing love, closeness and tenderness to her children. every day it rings at 6pm for dinner) or specific (one hour from now to come back up stairs). Are you 5 years old? How would he manage without me, his Bandaid? There is no reason under the son a man or woman should be second to anyone when it comes to survival in health, shelter or love period. When she left for work she didn't even say goodbye. Or begging him to drive you home. I will always do my best but not at the price of my sanity. I can understand mentioning it to him and maybe even asking, but begging?? Life goes on, until Im better. When I am sick I want to be left alone, just let me sleep it off. Even though we were engaged and had a date set, I still shouldn't have gotten pregnant, and THAT action left me with something that I would have to deal with the rest of my life. It makes your partner retreat - the opposite of wanting to connect. yikes!! I don't trust him now, and I have good reason not to. I'm not sure about what's being discussed about men. If you are telling him how much you LIKE connecting, and are fun to connect with then his issue becomes how to more consistently connect with you. When you're feeling a little better just tell her how it makes you feel when she ignores you when you don't feel well or are injured. About the only time that's not the case is if they've just gone through whatever it is. I decided then to leave. It CHANGED ME, and I'm not who I used to be. Then we must note that he attempts, albeit it is poor and generic advice, to advise you on your illness. In the main area of the house there should be 2 colors, and now there are at least 5. is already like this, it will only get worse. Eventually, he got through it and started healing. Submitted by Orbital Seattlite on Fri, 11/15/2019 - 14:40. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. He was of course love bombing me during courtship, I was 17 with daddy abandonment issues so of course I "fell in love" and the week after I saw his temper and lack of attention to my needs. Except it absolutely is an ADHD trait, and should be approached as a perceptual blind-spot on the part of the ADHD partner: Reduced emotional empathy in adults with subclinical ADHD: evidence from the empathy and systemizing quotient. Someone who would listen to MY dreams, and want that for me, as much as I want his dreams and goals for him, and to help each other achieve those, if in our power. You know, a "special" love. All I had to do was pay for the meal prep, and pick up the meals. I said no. My husband had the worst tantrum in front of a third person. It seemed only logical, Im the identified patient right? I was "out of commission" for 6 weeks. Instead he walked around the car, got in the back seat and proceeded to yell at me for the next 15 min about how "he does not have time for this" & "why did I call him(my husband) and not my sister or my niece". Now I see, and now I can and will be your Captain Marvel. It is not only me he has no sympathy for, it is his children as well. If I could boil down the difficulties, it really does come down to lack of love as you described. Submitted by Jr4par83 on Mon, 11/23/2020 - 21:27. Stay away from me!" Thank you for reminding me that it's me and my wife with each other now. And, to feel loved in return, you need to be sexual with each other. The only thing he has genuinely shared from his therapy was the conclusion that he lies to everyone all the time. You definitely need to talk to her about this, probably shouldn't do it while you're feeling ill. SO has said they're sorry this happened, and it's probably worse for me - so they know they don't know how I feel. WebNo, that's not normal in a loving marriage. 5 signs of an unsupportive husband during pregnancy. You're not the victim the kids are. When I'm sick no one asks what I need to make me less miserable. Some of the scorn heaped upon ADHDers by their non-ADHD partners must CERTAINLY be readable in their partner's body languageeven if their partner is trying to be nice. I know this may sound "corny", lol, but I don't think I'm too off base with this. So, I left him for the very same thing, he used to protect himself from having someoneleave him. But in the end, that doesn't matter either. Submitted by dedelight4 on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 16:40. I was really pissed and hurt that he didnt seem to care. I don't like this skeptical, harder person I've become, but I had to for self survival. My A-Hole ex Husband was a jerk to me when I broke my foot the year before we divorced. What symptoms first occurred in Submitted by dedelight4 on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 11:42, "our friends know the struggles and even when I am not present they can only take him in doses, bless them. And.as I have confirmed my father ( the Narc ) did this as well? Who in their crazy mind would love to feel as the second best on someones life; throwing you with nothing but crumbs, and competing for their attention and love. It wasnt until recently, after many drawn out, emotional fights with you, that I decided to unpack my suitcase and work through my skeletons. We all experience them. Run!!! You don't want to marry a man with kids, trust me. All this crap about his kids "coming first" is just thatcrap. When you marry, the two It's "his" problem, and it's mostly a "focus" problem he thinks. (Statements I've heard dozens of times, and heard again this week). Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. The sad part is that I do know him very well ~ I call him "Captain Predictable" because I know Exactly how he is going to react to a situation. The next morning I woke up with chills and a fever of over 100. Maybe she doesnt even realize shes doing it. We parted ways. If the tables were turned, I know he'd be acting like he was at death's door if he simply had the sniffles. Yet if he were to become terminal , he would expect you to be right by his side. Boy did we cry. I want to leave him but my family is against it. Germaphobe type thing? Well, yes, I have an Autoimmune condition that causes it. He sees the painted parts and not the unpainted parts, because to him this is a lot of work. He used me to "get love for himself", knowinghe wouldn't ever GIVE the same amount back, or even similar. A perfect opportunity to "prove" himself right ~ WRONG! Terms. All big red flags. A true and internal lack of gratitude for his own life that God has granted him, and gratitude for the lives that have been entrusted TO him, which is an honor and which is humbling for the soul who can SEE this fact. Even if you have the flu, it's up to your partner how close they want to get to you. I know some have stated this, others have said the opposite. He is generous to others but asks me when I can pay him back. That is my H 100%! I had started a new job so I could not take him to get his surgery, but I did leave work early, come home and take care of him, make chicken soup, the whole deal. I know my friends ahave been instrumental in plugging that gap for me. That's absurd. It was horrible since I did it secretly. Etc. Of course my Hcalled right back saying he could not hear his phone(yet his friend heard his on the 2nd ring). Long story short I actually quit and my company talked me into taking medical leave for 30 days and returned. But the way to stay unique and independent is to define when you will connect, rather than wait for him to notice at any time. If you want to connect with your partner the 'trick' is two fold. You never falter. I can not tell you how much I can relate to you and everyone else that has posted. The one hoarding in the place you are trying to sell? Now when Im sick I prefer to be left alone. It was miserable. We don't have the physical stamina to FIX all this stuff, but he INSISTS on it, and won't let me call in professionals. When I was3 months pregnant, wetook a trip to Mexico. His mother died from Alzhiemer's, but was bi-polar and whatever else. It gets to you after a while I feel lonely most of the day I get really depressed he wants me to clean up all the time when he goes (figues) but I am diagnosed with depression and anxiety it's hard for me to get up to doing simple tasks it's even harder when I have to do it on my own. You are not important. And that look on his face is what I will always remember. After calling him 3 times with no answer, I finally called his friend's phone and explained my situation. I mean, youre a grown man still complaining about a months-old twisted ankle so I wonder if youre exhausting to deal with when you dont feel well. He is so sick and depressed. WebBy sick, I mean a minor cold. He didn't take me to the hospital, just put me back to bed. I was out of character. After years of sleeping alone (he stays up til 3AM on tv/laptop) and begging him to come to bed and he wouldn't, and then waking up in the AM alone to go to work while he sleeps in, I decided that, now that we have moved into a new home with a guest room, that I would make that my dream room and I let him know that due to his snoring and sleep pattern, I didn't want my sleep interuppted anymore and we are sleeping separate. I paid for every cent at that point and insurance for me/him. Have been married for 4years now. Submitted by kellyj on Wed, 12/14/2016 - 14:18. I think that men get used to a female (their mother) taking care of them while they are children, and subconsciously they maintain this view as they get to adulthood. Ihave neglected you. You cant expect people to stop. I was still in therapy and my therapist, who is a mutual friend and took me on pro-bono, helped me so much to rebuild my esteem, stop being co-dependent. And that was just with a scratchy throat. 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